Blog 4: The other Wes Moore Family & Parenting

 


The Absence of Fathers: A Silent Thread in Both Wes Moore's’ Lives

In The Other Wes Moore, both boys grow up without active fathers, but the impact of that absence is felt in very different ways.


Wes Moore, the author, loses his father early to an unexpected illness. While the loss is painful, his mother, grandparents, and extended family rally to fill the void. His home remains a place of emotional safety, stability, and high expectations.

The other Wes Moore’s father is absent by choice, a ghost who never becomes a real figure in his life. That lack of paternal presence, combined with a mother overwhelmed by her own struggles, leaves a vacuum. Wes fills that void by turning to older boys in the neighborhood—many of whom are involved in drug dealing and crime. These figures become de facto role models, teaching him a dangerous version of manhood.

This contrast highlights the impact of fatherlessness not just as a personal loss, but as a societal issue. The absence of fathers—and the absence of strong male mentors in general—can leave young men searching for identity and guidance in all the wrong places. But The Other Wes Moore also reminds us that fatherhood is not just about biology; it’s about presence, mentorship, and responsibility.

In both stories, it’s the presence or absence of responsible, caring adults—mothers, fathers, mentors—that determines the trajectory of a child’s life. The book is a powerful argument for investing not only in individual families, but in the community networks that support them.





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  1. Professor KnauerMay 18, 2025 at 7:13 PM

    This is a huge and very important and impactful topic. You do a good job in summarizing it in a brief blog. The importance of fathers and male mentors in young boys' lives is so important.
    Note: The video you shared was disabled. Great pictures both of young Wes Moore's family and his current family of his own.

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